Parenting Plan

The undersigned are:

Name, residing in postal code/place, born in place on date, hereinafter called 'the Father'

and

Name, residing in postal code/place, born in place on date, hereinafter called 'the Mother'

WHEREAS:

-        The parents married in place on date / the parents registered a civil partnership on date / the parents had an affectionate relationship;

-        The following minor children/child were/was born from this marriage/registered civil partnership:

-      name born in place on date;

-      name born in place on date;

-      name born in place on date;

-        The parents have joint parental authority over the children/name child;

-        The parents have consulted on how they will divide the care and upbringing tasks, inform and consult with each other about important matters concerning the children/name child and provide for the costs of care and upbringing of their minor children/name child after the divorce;

-        They wish to lay down the results of their consultations in this Parenting Plan;

-        The parents understand that the parental authority also includes the parent's duty to encourage the child/their children to develop the bonds with the other parent;

-        The parents also understand that their child/children has/have a right to equal care and upbringing by each parent under the law;

The parents have discussed their individual wishes with their child/children and have involved them/him/her, to the extent that this is in their/his/her best interests, in the parenting plan in the following manner appropriate to their/his/her age:.........

They then went through the main points of the parenting plan with them.

NOW IT IS HEREBY AGREED AS FOLLOWS:

Article 1 - Joint Exercise of the Parental Authority

1.1     The parents consider that it is in the best interests of their minor children/their child that they continue to exercise joint parental authority over them/him/her after the divorce. It is also important, in their opinion, that contact between the children/name child and the parents is affected as little as possible by the divorce. Therefore, the parents shall encourage as far as possible contact between the children/name child and each of the parents.

1.2     The parents shall make an effort to treat each other as parents in a respectful, positive and reasonable manner in matters concerning the children/name child.

Article 2 – Principal Residence/Moving/Passport

2.1     The principal residence of the children/name child shall be with the Mother/Father and the children/name child shall be registered in the Municipal Personal Records Database at his/her address. For that reason, he/she shall be entitled to receive the child benefit.

2.2     The parents shall consult with each other beforehand in the event of an intended move. The move shall require the consent of the other parent, which consent may be substituted by a decision of the District Court. The same also applies for a new move if a previous move has been approved by the other parent or permitted by the District Court.

2.3     The passports/passport of the children/name child shall be kept by the Father/Mother. He/she shall hand over the passports to the other parent if necessary for a holiday abroad.

Article 3 – Care and Upbringing

3.1     Division of care and upbringing tasks

The parents have agreed the following division of the care and upbringing tasks…..

or:

The parents have agreed a division of the care and upbringing tasks as specified in Appendix….

If required in specific, compelling circumstances, the division of the care and upbringing tasks may be adjusted in the future.

3.2     Transportation

The parent having the children/name child shall deliver the children/name child to the other parent whose turn it is to have the children/name child.

3.3     Maintaining contacts

If the children/name child are/is with the one parent, this parent shall not obstruct telephone and email contact with the other parent, provided that this takes place in a manner acceptable to all those involved.

3.4     Daily care

During the time the children/name child stay(s) with the father he is responsible for the daily care of the children/name child; during the time the children/name child stay(s) with the mother, she shall be responsible. With regard to matters such as bodily care, the daily routine, curfew times, bedtime and pocket money, the parents shall first consult and reach agreement with each other and then, depending on their/his/her age and circumstances, make agreements with the children/name child.

3.5     Daily decisions

The parents have designated which parent is responsible for minor decisions concerning the personal care, sport and leisure time, medical care, music lessons and special events in Appendix ....

3.6     Legal liability

The parents shall ensure that the parent, with whom the children/name child have/has their/his/her principal residence, takes out liability insurance for them/him/her.

3.7     Other matters

Where possible, the parents shall always discuss in advance and in good time matters which present themselves that may be assumed to be of a special nature or initiate a new period in the life of the children/name child.

Article 4 - Information and Consultation

4.1     The parents shall inform each other about important matters concerning the person and assets of the children/name child and shall consult with each other on such matters.

The parents shall consult with each other every month/two months/... months in order to exchange information and confer with each other without the children/name child being present.

4.2     School choice

The parents shall jointly choose a (type of) school. The parents shall involve the children/name child in this choice, depending on their/his/her age and circumstances.

4.3     School information

The parent, who receives the reports, newsletters, the school timetable or other school information such as information about events or special meetings, shall immediately forward this information to the other parent for his or her perusal, insofar as the other parent cannot receive this information directly from the school.

The parents shall request the school to send communications to each of them at the same time. Both parents shall also try to obtain the necessary information on the website of the school.

4.4     Parents' evenings

The parents shall attend the information and parents' evenings (preferably) together or separately/alone by mutual agreement. New partners, if any, may only attend the parents' evenings with the express consent of the other parent. The parents shall give each other the opportunity to maintain separate contact with the school, in consultation with or by direction of the school management in question. The parents shall always make agreements in advance and in good time in respect of attendance at public gatherings (such as celebrations, evening four-day marathons and suchlike).

4.5     Medical matters

Decisions on medical matters concerning the children/name child shall be primarily taken by mutual agreement of the parents. If an acute medical problem occurs, the parent who has custody of the child at the time in question, shall take the necessary steps and inform the other parent forthwith, i.e. as quickly as circumstances permit.

The Mother/Father shall ensure that the children/name child visit/visits the dentist twice a year.

The parents shall make agreements on who will accompany the children/name child on visits to the (school) doctor and suchlike. In the absence of a specific agreement, elaborate in more detail.

The children/name child shall be insured under the Mother's/Father's medical expenses insurance policy. Any premium due for this insurance cover shall be paid by the Mother/Father/ from the children's account as referred to in Article ...

Each parent shall have access to a sick child who is being nursed.

Article 5 - Respectful Parenthood

5.1     Optional: The parents remain the parents of the children/name child. Terms such as father/mother/dad(dy)/mum(my) shall be reserved for the parents and shall not be used for another person, save with the express consent of the other parent.

5.2     Optional: The parents shall always convey to each other, and not through the children/name child, messages concerning the children/name child and/or the family situation or impending changes.

5.3     Optional: The parents shall speak with respect about each other's position to third parties and shall try to prevent third parties interfering negatively in the parenting.

5.4     Optional: The parents shall be supportive of each other as much as possible in       each other's role towards the children/name child, especially when apparent mistakes have been made or problems occur.

5.5     Optional: Signals from the children/name child concerning the other parent or his/her living situation shall be discussed by and coordinated between the parents without additionally burdening the children/name child with these issues.

The Arrival of a New Partner/Stepparent

5.6     Optional: When a new partner becomes a serious part of the life of one of the parents and this new partner is introduced into the life of the children, the parent, together with the new partner, shall inform the other parent before/after (..create a choice field) the introduction of this partner to the children.

5.7     Optional: The parents shall directly communicate with each other about the upbringing and care of the children. The parents shall continue to be primarily responsible for the upbringing of the children and the parents shall determine together how they will raise the children. The new partner/stepparent shall support the parenting style agreed by both parents.

Article 6 – Other Family Members

6.1     The one parent shall not obstruct contact between the children/name child and the   family members of the other parent.

6.2     After the decease of one of the parents, the other parent shall make an effort to keep the relationship between the deceased parent's family and the children/name child intact and shall encourage this relationship as much as possible.

Article 7 – Child Maintenance

7.1     Costs of the children/name child

The costs of the children/name child are estimated by the parents by mutual agreement/in accordance with generally accepted Child Maintenance Tables/ according to Appendix at € .... and the parents shall contribute to these costs pro rata to their financial capacity/income. Possibly elaborate.

7.2     Child maintenance

With effect from date and as long as the children/name child have/has not reached the age of majority and live/lives with the Father/Mother, the Father/Mother shall pay the Father/Mother maintenance for the children/name child of € .... per child per month. This maintenance shall increase in line with statutory indexation as referred to in Section 1:402a of the Civil Code [Burgerlijk Wetboek], for the first time on 1st January 20year number.

7.3     The parties shall each bear his or her own living-in expenses of the children/name child when they/he/she live/lives with him or her. Expenses that go beyond living-in expenses, which the parties understand to include specify, shall be paid from a jointly-held account. Each parent shall have a PIN card for this account. The Father shall pay each month an amount of € ... into this account. The Mother shall pay each month an amount of € ... into this account.

The parents shall be obliged to account to each other for his or her withdrawals and on closure of this account each of them shall be entitled to the balance for one half/pro rata to their contributions.

7.4     Maintenance for young adult children

When a child reaches the age of majority, the Father/Mother shall pay the child the maintenance, which is stated in Article number, pursuant to Section 1:395a of the Civil Code by transferring this maintenance payment to a bank account to be designated by the child, unless at the time in question the child still lives with the Father/Mother. In that case the manner of payment shall be determined by mutual agreement between the parents and the child for as long as that situation continues.

The statutory indexation regulation shall continue to apply until the child has reached the age of twenty-one years.

7.5     Education expenses after the age of twenty-one

The parents/Father/Mother undertake/undertakes to pay a child of twenty-one years or older a contribution to education expenses for as long as the child is following a professional training or academic course, provided that he/she is achieving reasonable results and subject to consultation with them/him/her, but only up to such time that the child has reached the age of number years.

This clause for the benefit of each of the parents' children is irrevocable and therefore the children have the right to seek compliance with this clause if necessary. Through signing this agreement, the parties are also deemed to have accepted this clause as legal representatives of their minor children.

7.6     Bank accounts in the name of the children

The following bank accounts in the name of the children are known:

  • account with name bank under account number number in the name of name child;
  • account with name bank under account number number in the name of name child;
  • account with name bank under account number number in the name of name child;

The names in which the aforementioned bank accounts are held shall remain unchanged.

To the extent that this is raised, these accounts shall not be included in the financial arrangement concluded by the parents in connection with the dissolution of their marriage.

It is the parent's intention that the balance of the bank accounts in the name of the children shall go to the children/name child.

Each of the parents shall ensure that the balance of the bank accounts in the name of the children will only go to the child in whose name the account in question is held.

The balance of the bank accounts in the name of the children shall only be used with the consent of both parents for as long as the children are minors.

Neither of the parents has the express intention to use any balance of a bank account in the name of (one of) the children for his or her own purposes. In the event of failure to comply with the preceding provision, the parent who has made this withdrawal shall be obliged, at the first request of the other parent, to promptly reimburse the withdrawn amount to the child in question.

The Father/Mother shall receive the account statements of the bank accounts in the name of the children and on 31 December of each year, at the first request of the other parent, he/she shall allow her/him to inspect (the movements of) these account statements.

Each of the parents may open a new savings account in the name of or on behalf of (one of) the children.

Article 8 - Evaluation/Disputes

The parents shall evaluate this Parenting Plan each year and amend it where necessary. If they have differences of opinion about the implementation of the Parenting Plan or the manner of fulfilment of the care and upbringing tasks, they shall turn to a mediator in order to resolve the points of dispute that have arisen.

If, after consultation of the mediator, the parties are unable to mutually agree on an appropriate arrangement, either of the parties may submit the points of dispute that have arisen to the competent court.

Article 9 - Amendments

The parents may amend this Parenting Plan by mutual agreement. Incidental amendments may be informally agreed, structural amendments exclusively in writing.

IN WITNESS WHEREOF, this Parenting Plan has been executed in numberplicate by the parties hereto,

in ............................                                   in ............................

on .........................                                     on .........................

...............................                                   ...............................

name                                                  name

Division of Care and Upbringing Tasks for name children/name child

Appendix number

Where do the children live, two-weekly schedule

 

Day (from ....hours

Evening (from ....hours

Night (until ...hours)

Monday

Name

Name

Name

Tuesday

Name

Name

Name

Wednesday

Name

Name

Name

Thursday

Name

Name

Name

Friday

Name

Name

Name

Saturday

Name

Name

Name

Sunday

Name

Name

Name

Monday

Name

Name

Name

Tuesday

Name

Name

Name

Wednesday

Name

Name

Name

Thursday

Name

Name

Name

Friday

Name

Name

Name

Saturday

Name

Name

Name

Sunday

Name

Name

Name

Holidays

 

Name

Name

Summer holidays

Has ...% of the holidays.

In the odd years 1st choice.

Communicate to name not later than date in the preceding year

Has ...% of the holidays.

In the even years 1st choice.

Communicate to name not later than date in the preceding year

Autumn holidays

Even years

Odd years

Christmas holidays

Christmas days in the even years and 1st week holidays and New Year's Eve/Day and 2nd holiday week in the odd years.

Christmas days in the odd years and 1st week holidays and New Year's Eve/Day and 2nd holiday week in the even years.

Spring holidays

Odd years

Even years

May holidays

Possibly extra holiday

(or 2nd week May holidays)

Even years

Odd years

Public Holidays

 

Name

Name

 

Good Friday/Easter

Even years

Odd years

Unless these public holidays fall in the period of one of the aforementioned holidays, in that case the division of holidays takes precedence

Ascension Day

Even years

Odd years

Unless these public holidays fall in the period of one of the aforementioned holidays, in that case the division of holidays takes precedence

Whitsun

Odd years

Even years

Unless these public holidays fall in the period of one of the aforementioned holidays, in that case the division of holidays takes precedence

Queen's Day

Even years

Odd years

 

St. Nicholas's Eve

Odd years

Even years

 

Special Days

 

Name

Name

 

Children's birthday

Even years

Odd years

Both the day itself and the following night

Parent's birthday

On own birthday

On own birthday

Both the day itself and the following night

Grandfather's/grandmother's birthday

Date/date

Date/date

Both the day itself and the following night

Father's Day

Name

Name

Both the day itself and the following night

Mother's Day

Name

Name

Both the day itself and the following night

Comment

Name and name can only decide on the children attending various events (birthday parties, holidays, camps, sports tournaments etc.) if name child and name child are living with them

   

House pets

New house pets stay with name

New house pets stay with name

 

Presents children

Presents given by name, stay with name

Presents given by name stay with name

 

Personal care

Hairdresser                   father/mother consultation/without consultation

Clothing                        father/mother consultation/without consultation

Bodily care                   father/mother consultation/without consultation

(tattoos, piercings)

Sport and leisure

Choice of sport, leisure   father/mother consultation/without consultation

Arrangements in respect

of sports and leisure       father/mother consultation/without consultation

Purchase of necessities   father/mother consultation/without consultation

Medical Care

Special and important

decisions (specialists      

among others)              father/mother in consultation

Minor decisions (dentist,

Family doctor,

vaccinations, colds

and children's illnesses

etc.)                            father/mother consultation/without consultation

Urgent medical care       the parent with whom name child lives

Choice of medicine         father/mother consultation/without consultation

Administering medicine    father/mother consultation/without consultation

Music (Lessons)

and Art/Culture

Choice                         father/mother consultation/without consultation

Escort                          father/mother consultation/without consultation

Purchase of necessities   father/mother consultation/without consultation

Special Events

Camps (e.g. sports

tournament, school

camp)                          father/mother consultation/ without consultation

.......................           father/mother consultation/ without consultation

.....................             father/mother consultation/ without consultation

....................              father/mother consultation/ without consultation

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