Van Hilten Advocaten & Mediators closes down as of November 1st

The partners of Van Hilten Advocaten & Mediators at Amsterdam and The Hague have by mutual agreement decided to end their collaboration.

Emma Kostense will continue her current practice at the law firm SmeetsGijbels in (1071 KP) Amsterdam at the Jacob Obrechtstraat 70 (see

Willem de Vries will continue his current practice at the law firm ScheerSanders Advocaten in (2585 ED) The Hague at the Nassauplein 36 (see

Margreet Ruijgrok, Monique Beijersbergen, Coen van den End, Sabrina De Jong en Zoë Vis will launch a new law firm named Silk Advocaten en Mediators. Silk Advocaten en Mediators will be located at the current address in (1075 HJ) Amsterdam at De Lairessestraat 129 and in (2596 AL) The Hague at the Zuid Hollandlaan 7 (Spaces) (see

Edith van Ruitenbeek will discontinue her law practice and will focus on other professional activities.

Raya Oranje-Jorna will launch a law firm in (2514 AB) The Hague at the Koninginnegracht 19, named Raya Jorna Advocaat en Mediator (see

Checklist parenting arrangements

Checklist for the parenting arrangements

  • How do you take care of your children today?
  • What are your hopes for your children's futures?
  • What do you hope your children will say about the divorce when they are older?
  • What is your contribution to this? How can you achieve this?
  • Is there any matter regarding the joint raising of the children that makes you have concerns?
  • Have you given thought to the visitation arrangement? What would be best suited to your children and yourselves?


  • Who will buy the children's clothes?
  • Who will take them to the dentist or the doctor?
  • What are your thoughts regarding the vacations?
  • How do you envision the visitation arrangement during the holidays (e.g. Christmas)?
  • What is your preferred means of communicating with each other about the children?
  • How often?
  • What matters would you want to be informed about regarding the children?
  • How will you handle events or other situations regarding your children to which you are both invited?
  • Who will maintain the relationship with the school?
  • How will you keep each other informed in case of unusual events? (doctor's visit, illness, family gathering)?
  • What are your thoughts about the costs of raising the children (maintenance)?
  • When would it be important to you the re-assess the agreements made regarding the parenting arrangements, in the children's interests?
  • Under what circumstances would you wish to change the calculation of the children's costs or the child maintenance?
  • Who manages the passports?
  • Who takes care of the children if the parent with whom the children are supposed to be staying at any particular moment, is indisposed?
  • How will you decide on the amount of pocket money?
  • What if a child wants to get tattooed / pierced etc.? Discuss?
  • What would you like to agree regarding any future higher education and its financing?


  • In whose liability insurance policy will your children be included?
  • In whose health insurance policy will your children be included?
  • What would you like to settle/amend in terms of your will?

What else is important to you, and what would you like to discuss and/or put to paper?

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