Checklist parenting arrangements

Checklist for the parenting arrangements

  • How do you take care of your children today?
  • What are your hopes for your children's futures?
  • What do you hope your children will say about the divorce when they are older?
  • What is your contribution to this? How can you achieve this?
  • Is there any matter regarding the joint raising of the children that makes you have concerns?
  • Have you given thought to the visitation arrangement? What would be best suited to your children and yourselves?


  • Who will buy the children's clothes?
  • Who will take them to the dentist or the doctor?
  • What are your thoughts regarding the vacations?
  • How do you envision the visitation arrangement during the holidays (e.g. Christmas)?
  • What is your preferred means of communicating with each other about the children?
  • How often?
  • What matters would you want to be informed about regarding the children?
  • How will you handle events or other situations regarding your children to which you are both invited?
  • Who will maintain the relationship with the school?
  • How will you keep each other informed in case of unusual events? (doctor's visit, illness, family gathering)?
  • What are your thoughts about the costs of raising the children (maintenance)?
  • When would it be important to you the re-assess the agreements made regarding the parenting arrangements, in the children's interests?
  • Under what circumstances would you wish to change the calculation of the children's costs or the child maintenance?
  • Who manages the passports?
  • Who takes care of the children if the parent with whom the children are supposed to be staying at any particular moment, is indisposed?
  • How will you decide on the amount of pocket money?
  • What if a child wants to get tattooed / pierced etc.? Discuss?
  • What would you like to agree regarding any future higher education and its financing?


  • In whose liability insurance policy will your children be included?
  • In whose health insurance policy will your children be included?
  • What would you like to settle/amend in terms of your will?

What else is important to you, and what would you like to discuss and/or put to paper?

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